Parts of this weeks lesson hit really close to home. Sex Power and Intimacy. Three small words but huge meaning! My 26 year marriage was all about the power to use sex to control. Sex wasn’t something that I enjoyed but knew if I didn’t participate could cause anger so therefore I became very good at faking. It wasn’t until I escaped from the marriage that I could see sex and relationships as it should be viewed. It was interesting to read on pg 172 about Sexual selkf schemas and the understanding of self and basic sexuality.
Bisexual people have a whole different set of problems in the scheme of things. They are attached stigma in both the heterosexula and homosexual worlds where do they fit. Jennifer Baumgardner’s story “what is Bisexuality” was the story of a woman who wanted her family to know who she was and to accept her bisexuality. We all want to be accepted for who we are and it is a great feeling when you find that relationship no matter man or woman where someone loves you for just who you are all the quirks and pieces that you feel free to let escape and not bottle up to impress. That is real love. Families are sometimes harder to adjust to something out of their norm. It is hard for folks even in this enlightened age to understand because gendering plays such a huge role in our lives same as 100 years ago. Until we are able to view everyone equally and to not be so judging of different life styles we will continue to have the discrimination that exists and has existed for hundreds of years.
Our society is all about beautiful people being sexy with skinny bodies, big lips and perfect hair. It really is funny if you think about because when you take all the photo tricks and airbrushing away you have a person who isn’t what they are advertised. So many people are set up to fail because of unrealistic expectations in romance, love and sex. I absolutely loved the reading on page 203, Gate C22 by Ellen Bass. Two people who love each other so completely and wonderfully and they aren’t beautiful like all those couples in US, People, etc., but how they must love each other. When it comes down to it….isn’t that what we all really want someone to greet us and be so happy to see you like they were starving for your presence. Knowing that they think your hot even if your wearing bermuda shorts and middle aged. I am so thankful to have found that person after so many years of being someone I did not even know. Life if too short get out there and live…be who you are inside and out and just live!!!!!
